As a queer therapist, I am deeply aware of the importance of having a space where you can feel safe and comfortable, a place that you may trust and safely open up to receiving support, without having to justify or explain who you are.
Many people who identify as within the rainbow of LGBTQ identities struggle with feeling they are not enough, and that they do not belong. Even within their own communities.
I hold an understanding that oppression occurs not only on an overt and macro level for LGBTQ+ people, but that it also occurs on a covert, hidden, and micro level — and that this may further intersect with other oppressed identities that you embody. Having to constantly justify, explain, or defend your identity, your safety, your self, and your right to exist can take a huge toll on your body, your mind, your heart, your energy system, and your sense of self in the world. These experiences can also become internalized, repeating themselves within your own self and within your communities, such as the persistent experience of being different and othered, sense of feeling like you aren’t ” gay/queer/trans enough”, or like you just don’t belong.
I can hold and understand the impact of oppression as it occurs in the present day, and over your lifetime. These can include definitions and expectations of what you “should be”, what is “good”, and what is “appropriate” within your family of origin and your chosen family, friends, community, religion, culture, and society. These messages can deeply affect our ability to connect with our own inner knowing, the beautiful and complex inner self that we all hold. These messages can limit us from being who we truly and authentically are within this world. I also hold the perspective that these oppressions are carried down through legacies of oppression and trauma, and that you may additionally be impacted by the weight of those legacies.
You do not have to be good.– Mary Oliver, “Wild Geese”
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
I will never assume that the reason you are coming to therapy is because of your sexual orientation or gender identity. I understand that the reason you seek therapy may or may not include addressing the impact of any oppression you may have experienced. It is your time, your space, your support. We will follow where you feel called.
This is your healing journey. I look forward to walking it beside you.